What is true love?
A question most of us have asked at least one time in our lives. What is love? What is true love? How do you know if you love someone truly?
I thought I should write a post about it! 🙂
Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection (“I love my mother”) to pleasure (“I loved that meal”). It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment. It can also be a virtue representing human kindness, compassion, and affection—”the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”. It may also describe compassionate and affectionate actions towards other humans, one’s self or animals.
There are a lot of different kinds of love. The love you have for your partner, your child, parents, siblings, family, friends, pets. Love is beautiful. It makes you feel good if you know that you are loved.
Some people say that love hurts. I disagree.
But either way it’s a risk to love, you might get hurt pretty badly. I know. But I also know that locking your feelings away and pretend not to care isn’t a solution. Tried that, didn’t work. You will get hurt. One way or another, everyone gets hurt one day. But it’s a risk worth taking. Because true love does exist and we all need love in our lives.
But what is true love?
In my eyes, true love is loving someone at their darkest. True love is loving someone no matter what. True love is not about you, it’s about the person you love. True love has no limits and knows no boundaries. Loving someone this way will ask for a lot of courage and strength, but it’s worth it.
It’s easy to say ‘I love you’ and promise that it will last forever. It’s a whole other story to prove that it’s true. Forever is quite a while you know.
Only when you have seen a person’s darkest side, only if you have been tested or hurt, only if you haven’t given up on someone but continued fighting even when things seemed hopeless, only then you can speak of ‘true love’.
You may fight. You may not see each other or even speak to each other for a while. You may get hurt by the person you love. But true love will conquer it all. Simply because it’s a feeling you can’t control.
Think I’m naïve? Maybe I am, I don’t really care. I have lost so many people in my life that I am capable of loving the ones I have left very deeply. I believe in true love because I can give it. Of course I have been hurt a lot of times, it’s not something you can avoid. I closed myself off for years to stop people from getting close to me. It didn’t work. And that’s not how I want to live my life and I will care anyway.
It’s actually quite simple, I need love. And I rather have people I love walking away from me than dying on me. I can handle them being happy without me.
People often say: ‘I would die for that person’. This means they will do almost anything for the person they love. But when you suffer from severe depression to the point where you even become suicidal, staying alive for someone is a much bigger sacrifice. And in my eyes, it means so much more.
In my opinion, true love isn’t just something between lovers. True love can be the love a parent has for a child, a feeling you can have for a sibling or even a friend. It has so many different shapes.
True love requires sacrifices sometimes. It is patient and kind. It’s what makes this world a better place.
And it’s beautiful…
Lots of Love