June is PTSD awareness month
Lots of Love
June is PTSD Awareness Month
And as most of you might know, I have PTSD.
You can find Links to a couple of articles I wrote about this subject beneath the poem
Don’t judge, just care!
Falling apart inside
Having trouble breathing
Memories, sharp as blades
Feelings I try to hide
With a smile on my face
Inside, I am dying
Lost in the darkness
Drifting through space
Into a million pieces
I keep falling
Just wish I could forget
A mind burned to ashes
In a sea of unshed tears I shout
I am choking
Just want to end it
But… I can’t find a way out
There is a monster out there that will make you want to damage and hurt yourself.
It’s called Self-Harm.
Let’s see what professionals can tell us about this monster:
Self-Harm: direct injuring of body tissue. The most common form of self-harm is skin-cutting but self-harm also covers a wide range of behaviors including, but not limited to, burning, scratching, banging or hitting body parts, interfering with wound healing, hair-pulling and the ingestion of toxic substances or objects.
This monster often likes to pop up when you suffer from mental pain. It makes you hurt yourself to escape the mental torture NOT to get attention! People wouldn’t try to hide it if it was.
I have battled this monster myself every now and then. I am not ashamed to admit that.
Because battling a monster that hurts you so much inside that you would prefer physical pain above the mental pain is not something to be ashamed off.
No, I never have cut myself. You will find no scars on my body. But cutting is not the only way to harm yourself.
Understanding cutting and self-harm
Self-harm is a way of expressing and dealing with deep distress and emotional pain. Injuring yourself is the only way you know how to cope with feelings like sadness, self-loathing, emptiness, guilt, and rage.
The problem is that the relief that comes from self-harming doesn’t last very long. It’s like slapping on a Band-Aid when what you really need are stitches. It may temporarily stop the bleeding, but it doesn’t fix the underlying injury. And it also creates its own problems.
When you battle this Monster.
Signs and symptoms of cutting and self-harm
Self-harm includes anything you do to intentionally injure yourself.
Some of the more common ways include:
Self-harm can also include less obvious ways of hurting yourself or putting yourself in danger, such as driving recklessly, binge drinking, taking too many drugs, and having unsafe sex.
Help for cutting and self-harm step 1: Confide in someone
If you’re ready to get help for cutting or self-harm, the first step is to confide in another person. It can be scary to talk about the very thing you have worked so hard to hide, but it can also be a huge relief to finally let go of your secret and share what you’re going through.
Deciding whom you can trust with such personal information can be difficult. Choose someone who isn’t going to gossip or try to take control of your recovery. Ask yourself who in your life makes you feel accepted and supported. It could be a friend, teacher, religious leader, counselor, or relative. But you don’t necessarily have to choose someone you are close to.
Tips for talking about cutting and self-harm
Focus on your feelings. This can help the person you’re confiding in better understand where you’re coming from. It also helps to let the person know why you’re telling them. Do you want help or advice from them? Do you simply want another person to know so you can let go of the secret?
Communicate in whatever way you feel most comfortable. If you’re too nervous to talk in person, consider starting off the conversation with an email or letter. Don’t feel pressured into sharing things you’re not ready to talk about. You don’t have to show the person your injuries or answer any questions you don’t feel comfortable answering.
Give the person time to process what you tell them. As difficult as it is for you to open up, it may also be difficult for the person you tell. Sometimes, you may not like the way the person reacts. Try to remember that reactions such as shock, anger, and fear come out of concern for you. It may help to print out this article for the people you choose to tell. The better they understand self-harm, the better able they’ll be to support you.
Talking about self-harm can be very stressful and bring up a lot of emotions. Don’t be discouraged if the situation feels worse for a short time right after sharing your secret. It’s uncomfortable to confront and change long-standing habits. But once you get past these initial challenges, you’ll start to feel better.
Help for cutting and self-harm step 2: Figure out why you cut
Understanding why you cut or self-harm is a vital first step toward your recovery. If you can figure out what function your self-injury serves, you can learn other ways to get those needs met, which in turn can reduce your desire to hurt yourself.
Identify your self-harm triggers
Remember, self-harm is most often a way of dealing with emotional pain. What feelings make you want to cut or hurt yourself? Sadness? Anger? Shame? Loneliness? Guilt? Emptiness?
Once you learn to recognize the feelings that trigger your need to self-injure, you can start developing healthier alternatives.
Help for cutting and self-harm step 3: Find new coping techniques
Self-harm is your way of dealing with feelings and difficult situations. So if you’re going to stop, you need to have alternative ways of coping in place so you can respond differently when you start to feel like cutting or hurting yourself.
If you cut to express pain and intense emotions
If you cut to calm and soothe yourself
If you cut because you feel disconnected and numb
If you cut to release tension or vent anger
Substitutes for the cutting sensation
Professional treatment for cutting and self-harm
You may also need the help and support of a trained professional as you work to overcome the self-harm habit, so consider talking to a therapist. A therapist can help you develop new coping techniques and strategies to stop self-harming, while also helping you get to the root of why you cut or hurt yourself.
Finding the right therapist may take some time. It’s very important that the therapist you choose has experience treating both trauma and self-injury. But the quality of the relationship with your therapist is equally important. Trust your instincts. If you don’t feel safe, respected, or understood, find another therapist.
When someone you loves is battling this Monster.
Warning signs that a family member or friend is cutting or self-injuring
Because clothing can hide physical injuries, and inner turmoil can be covered up by a seemingly calm disposition, self-injury can be hard to detect. However, there are red flags you can look for.
Helping a friend or family member who cuts or self-harms
Perhaps you’ve noticed suspicious injuries on someone close to you, or that person has confided to you that he or she is cutting. Whatever the case may be, you may be feeling unsure of yourself. What should you say? How can you help?
If the self-harmer is a family member, especially if it is your child, prepare yourself to address difficulties in the family. This is not about blame, but rather about learning ways of dealing with problems and communicating better that can help the whole family.
Don’t Judge, Just Care!
Lots of Love
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Don’t Judge, Just Care.
Lots of Love
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It seems so easy
No more pain
Just one little step
And your life becomes in vain
It’s just so tempting
No more sorrow
A couple of pills
And no more tomorrow
It seems about right
No more suffering
Just one little cut
And no more fighting
It’s just so soothing
No more contest
Just one quick shot
And you’re finally at rest
Just jump of the bridge
Across the river of life
Lights out, forever blind
But what of the hurt?
For those you’ll leave behind…
– Just Patty –
*warning, this post may contain triggers*
Statistics show that suicide rates are highest in spring.
There is a monster that let all other monsters look like purring kittens. It’s the monster called Suicide…
‘Suicide is the act of intentionally causing one’s own death. Suicide is often committed out of despair.’
An average of one person dies by suicide every 16.2 minutes
Many who attempt suicide never seek professional care.
For young people 15-24 years old, suicide is the third leading cause of death.
Substance abuse is a risk factor for suicide.
The strongest risk factor for suicide is depression.
Suicide can be prevented through education and public awareness.
Are you battling this monster? Do you have suicidal thoughts? Do you think no one cares?
Suicide is never the answer
Getting help is the answer
Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255
Suicide doesn’t end pain, it just gives your pain to your loved ones.
You need to hear that people do get through this. Even people who feel as badly as you are feeling now. Do not lose HOPE.
Give yourself some distance. Say to yourself, “I will wait 24 hours before I do anything.” Or a week. Remember that feelings and actions are two different things – just because you feel like killing yourself, doesn’t mean that you have to actually do it right this minute. Put some distance between your suicidal feelings and suicidal action. Even if it’s just 24 hours. You came this far, you can take 24 hours more.
People often turn to suicide because they are seeking relief from pain. Remember that relief is a feeling. And you have to be alive to feel it. You will not feel the relief you so desperately seek, if you are dead.
Some people will react badly to your suicidal feelings, either because they are frightened, or angry; they may actually increase your pain instead of helping you, despite their intentions, by saying or doing thoughtless things. You have to understand that their bad reactions are about their fears, not about you.
But there are people out there who can be with you in this horrible time, and will not judge you, or argue with you, or send you to a hospital, or try to talk you out of how badly you feel. They will simply care for you. Find one of them. Now. Use your 24 hours, or your week, and tell someone what’s going on with you. It is okay to ask for help. Try:
•Send an anonymous e-mail to The Samaritans
•Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255
•Call a psychotherapist
•Carefully choose a friend or a minister or rabbi, someone who is likely to listen. Do NOT stay silent, TALK!
Do you think someone you know is battling this monster?
DO NOT TURN AWAY!!! LISTEN AND REACH OUT!!!
If a friend or family member is suicidal, the best way to help is by offering an empathetic, listening ear. Let your loved one know that he or she is not alone and that you care.
Warning Signs of Suicide
These signs may mean someone is at risk for suicide.
•Talking about wanting to die or to kill oneself.
•Looking for a way to kill oneself, such as searching online or buying a gun.
•Talking about feeling hopeless or having no reason to live.
•Talking about feeling trapped or in unbearable pain.
•Talking about being a burden to others.
•Increasing the use of alcohol or drugs.
•Acting anxious or agitated; behaving recklessly.
•Sleeping too little or too much.
•Withdrawn or feeling isolated.
•Showing rage or talking about seeking revenge.
•Displaying extreme mood swings.
Additional Warning Signs of Suicide
•Preoccupation with death.
•Suddenly happier, calmer.
•Loss of interest in things one cares about.
•Visiting or calling people to say goodbye.
•Making arrangements; setting one’s affairs in order.
•Giving things away, such as prized possessions.
It should be noted that some people who die by suicide do not show any suicide warning signs.
A suicidal person urgently needs to see a doctor or mental health professional.
If You See the Warning Signs of Suicide…
In an emergency, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
Begin a dialogue by asking questions. Suicidal thoughts are common with some mental illnesses and your willingness to talk about it in a non-judgmental, non-confrontational way can be the help a person needs to seeking professional help. Questions okay to ask:
•”Do you ever feel so badly that you think about suicide?”
•”Do you have a plan to commit suicide or take your life?”
•”Have you thought about when you would do it (today, tomorrow, next week)?”
•”Have you thought about what method you would use?”
Asking these questions will help you to determine if your friend or family members is in immediate danger, and get help if needed. A suicidal person should see a doctor or mental health professional immediately. Calling the local emergency number or going to a hospital emergency room are also good options to prevent a tragic suicide attempt or death. Calling the National Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) is also a resource for you or the person you care about for help. Remember, always take thoughts of or plans for suicide seriously.
Never keep a plan for suicide a secret. Don’t worry about risking a friendship if you truly feel a life is in danger. You have bigger things to worry about-someone’s life might be in danger!
Don’t try to minimize problems or shame a person into changing their mind. Your opinion of a person’s situation is irrelevant. Trying to convince a person suffering with a mental illness that it’s not that bad, or that they have everything to live for may only increase their feelings of guilt and hopelessness. Reassure them that help is available, that what they are experiencing is treatable, and that suicidal feelings are temporary. Life can get better!
This is it
This is it
This is where it all ends
Never good enough
To leave it all behind
A thousand untold stories
It has to end
I am done
This is the end
No more sorrow
This is it
This is where it all begins
It wasn’t enough
I did it wrong
I was left behind
A thousand questions unanswered
Because you ended
I wasn’t done
This is the beginning
– Just Patty –
You are not alone. I am right here to listen…
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