Rant: Quotes that annoy the hell out of me!

It has been a while since I wrote a little rant, so I thought it would be time to do that again.

After all, we will always have something to rant about, don’t we?

Let’s talk about ‘quotes’.

I love quotes. I like reading them, sharing them and writing them.

But every once in a while I come across some quotes that annoy the hell out of me!

Here are a couple of them:

 

This is probably my least favorite quote in the world!

I mean, really??? So, someone you claim to love is being loved and in your little I-haven’t-been-to-any-serious-shit-yet opinion THAT is the worst feeling even?

Try losing your loved ones because they die for change. Then you will know real pain! Or getting abused by the very people who should nurture and protect you. Now, that are some heavy feelings. Way worse than this, trust me!

 

You need a man… No. Just no. You don’t need someone to complete you and you don’t need someone to care for you.

You need to make your own life worth it and THEN you connect to someone who makes it even more beautiful and you build a future TOGETHER!

Sigh. Newsflash, you can’t just ‘stop caring’. That’s about the dumbest statement ever. If you can stop caring just like that, you never cared in the first place.

Now what the heck is this? Gay pride offends you so you come up with this crap? Listen, you stone aged idiot, it’s 2015!!! Grow up, get a life and stop worrying about someone else’s!

 

Well, they won’t if they paid attention at school. Maybe they will say ‘You’re cute’ if they think you are and they don’t mind you screwing up the easiest words…

 

Anyways, quotes are cool. They can explain what you feel when you can’t find the words. Just think a little before you write or share one, because they can also make you look pretty stupid.

Lots of Love,

Patty

Throwback Thursday: True Love

On ‘Throwback Thursdays’ I want to share some older Poems and post of mine. I hope you will enjoy! 🙂

I wrote this article a couple of months ago. I still wholeheartedly believe in those words.

Love is powerful and those who are capable of loving deeply, will get hurt deeply.

But love makes you feel alive…

Check THIS Post to read my opinion on ‘True Love’.

Lots of Love,

Patty

Bad review…

So, I had the first bad review of my fantasy book. One and a half stars.
According to this reviewer I don’t have an own writing style, my characters are shallow and my book is like a sticky sandwich.

Ouch!

I am not going to lie to you, that hurts!
When you write, you put your heart and soul into your work. And when someone crushes it like this, it feels like a blow to the chest.

Now, I really don’t have anything to complain about because besides this one, I only have gotten some very good reviews and the sales are going very well considering I am a debut writer. But still…

It hurts. And now there is a bad review of my book on the internet. On a well known fantasy site. That just sucks.

I looked up the person who wrote the review because I wanted to know who she was. Turns out she is a young lady who writes herself. Her first book will be published soon by the publishing company I turned down because I didn’t feel like we were a good match.

This information made me wonder…
So this girl is a writer herself. That means that she must know how much a writer puts into her books. How in the world can she be so harsh then?
Don’t get me wrong, of course everyone has a right to their own opinion and a writer can only grow because of feedback even if it’s not good feedback. But why use phrases like ‘a sticky sandwich’. What’s the purpose of that? What am I suppose to learn from that? That she is just not a nice person?

And then I looked a bit closer at this review. So I don’t have a own writing style huh? Besides the fact that I made up a entire non existing language for my book and the fact that there is no other writer (that I know of) who writes the way I do then!

When I layed her review next to the other ones I’ve gotten so far, it became clear to on me that all her negative points were the exact opposite of what the other reviews said about my story and the characters. 

I know very well that as a writer you have to deal with bad reviews. It’s part of the job, you can’t please everyone.
But does it really has to on be like that?

I guess so. But I don’t agree. I rather would have people saying that they don’t like my book but explain why and what I could do to improve my future writing than just writing a nasty review that can make them feel like a expert and a critic.

Because for people like that, I feel nothing but pity.

So don’t try to stress too much about bad reviews guys. There will Always be people who just love to bring someone else down.

Keep writing what you want and how you want.

Lots of love,

Patty

True Love

What is true love?

A question most of us have asked at least one time in our lives. What is love? What is true love? How do you know if you love someone truly?

I thought I should write a post about it! 🙂

Love

Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection (“I love my mother”) to pleasure (“I loved that meal”). It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment. It can also be a virtue representing human kindness, compassion, and affection—”the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”. It may also describe compassionate and affectionate actions towards other humans, one’s self or animals.

There are a lot of different kinds of love. The love you have for your partner, your child, parents, siblings, family, friends, pets. Love is beautiful. It makes you feel good if you know that you are loved.

Some people say that love hurts. I disagree.

 

But either way it’s a risk to love, you might get hurt pretty badly. I know. But I also know that locking your feelings away and pretend not to care isn’t a solution. Tried that, didn’t work. You will get hurt. One way or another, everyone gets hurt one day. But it’s a risk worth taking. Because true love does exist and we all need love in our lives.

But what is true love?

In my eyes, true love is loving someone at their darkest. True love is loving someone no matter what. True love is not about you, it’s about the person you love. True love has no limits and knows no boundaries. Loving someone this way will ask for a lot of courage and strength, but it’s worth it.

It’s easy to say ‘I love you’ and promise that it will last forever. It’s a whole other story to prove that it’s true. Forever is quite a while you know.

Only when you have seen a person’s darkest side, only if you have been tested or hurt, only if you haven’t given up on someone but continued fighting even when things seemed hopeless, only then you can speak of ‘true love’.

You may fight. You may not see each other or even speak to each other for a while. You may get hurt by the person you love. But true love will conquer it all. Simply because it’s a feeling you can’t control.

Think I’m naïve? Maybe I am, I don’t really care. I have lost so many people in my life that I am capable of loving the ones I have left very deeply. I believe in true love because I can give it. Of course I have been hurt a lot of times, it’s not something you can avoid. I closed myself off for years to stop people from getting close to me. It didn’t work. And that’s not how I want to live my life and I will care anyway.

It’s actually quite simple, I need love. And I rather have people I love walking away from me than dying on me. I can handle them being happy without me.

People often say: ‘I would die for that person’. This means they will do almost anything for the person they love. But when you suffer from severe depression to the point where you even become suicidal, staying alive for someone is a much bigger sacrifice. And in my eyes, it means so much more.

In my opinion, true love isn’t just something between lovers. True love can  be the love a parent has for a child, a feeling you can have for a sibling or even a friend. It has so many different shapes.

True love requires sacrifices sometimes. It is patient and kind. It’s what makes this world a better place.

And it’s beautiful…

Lots of Love

Patty

*Warning* Rant: Ratings

The ones of you who know me for a while now, know that I will say anything that bothers me. I have a big mouth. 🙂

I don’t keep my mouth shut just because I may offend someone who is easily offended. That’s why I put a warning above my post when I think it may offend someone. If you, despite the warning, choose to read my posts anyway, that’s your responsibility. Just want to make it very clear that this is NOT a post written for anyone in particular. Trust me, if I feel the need to tell you something personally, I will!

Votes

Can anyone here explain me what the heck is the purpose of voting stars on WP?

To be honest, they annoy me a bit. You either like what I write or you don’t, both are fine by me.

I can’t please everyone and I don’t want to either. But I hate being rated. I am not in high school anymore.

And it’s anonymous? Why? Are people too chicken to give their opinion? Because every kind of feedback is welcome. Please, feel free to speak your mind on this blog! Unless you want to offend one of my friends, then I will kick you off…

Either like my posts or don’t, but don’t leave me a 1 star rating if you are not willing to tell me what you don’t like! How am I supposed to learn anything from that?

How does it work anyway? ‘Hmmm, I don’t like that post. I will give 1 star.’

Okay… then what? I am no mind reader, you know. I don’t know what you do or don’t like if you don’t tell me. We have the ‘comment’ button for that. Try it out some time, it’s really easy!

I can’t promise you that I will change anything though… 😉

I honestly don’t care about the ratings (although I am pretty sure some of those who read this will think I do, I don’t care about that either lol) and I can handle criticism because that can only improve my writing. But I don’t like to be judged or rated by someone who is cowardly hiding behind a star and has nothing real to say.
Does anyone else thinks this way, or is it just my temper?

Lots of love,

Patty

(please, feel free to speak your mind, or rate this post or whatever lol)

Just a thought… and a poem repost

A thought that has been stuck in my head for a while now…

Some people believe that you can only be family if you are bound by blood.

I disagree.

Blood makes you related, yes, but it takes a hell of a lot more to make you family.

Just think about it for a moment.

If we can only be family by blood, how about children who are adopted? They don’t have a blood connection to the parents who raise them and love them all their lives.

So, they can’t be family, right?

And what about a foster child? Not family?

And how about siblings from just one parent, half sisters and brothers? Are they half family then?

Sounds a bit shallow to me…

I have family members by blood who I never see or speak. I do consider them to be family because of the blood band we share, but that’s about it.

There are people who I love way more that aren’t blood related to me in any way.

People who are there for me when I need them. People who make me laugh when I want to cry. People to share my thoughts and dreams with. People who love me for who I am…

Isn’t that what family is about?

And your life partner? Is he or she family?

Think about this: if the only real family we have are the ones we are related to by blood, we all end up marrying a cousin or something.

Another thought: If blood makes you family, does that mean that people who get a blood transfusion are suddenly related to the one who donated the blood? I don’t think so.

So yeah, I disagree with the fact that the only family we have is bound to us by blood.

Because there is so much more to being family then sharing blood…  

Lots of Love,

Patty

Something to think about…

Yes, I know, not my usual kinda post. (sorry about that!) But I like to do something ‘different’ every now and then…

So, this is about being ‘different’. 🙂 (if you’re really stuck in your own opinion, you probably don’t want to read this!) Just saying…

Yeah, I know, the most of you will say: ‘But I am totally down with people being different!’

Is that so? Are you really? Because if everyone shouts that out without really thinking about it, why does bullying exist? Why does racism exist?

Well, I live in Holland, one of the most tolerant country’s of all. Or is it? Then why do we still have kids people committing suicide for had their life made a living hell because they were different? Just saying…

Everyone claims they want to be ‘different’. Unique. Special. We all want to be exclusive, not like everyone else. That’s not strange at all. In fact, it’s logical!Every human has his own thoughts, opinion and taste. There are no two people who are exactly alike. Luckily, because otherwise it would be a very dull world to live in!

But…

The strange thing about all of this is, that when someone is, in fact, ‘different’, a lot of people turn their backs on him of her. When someone not behaves or not looks like ‘the rest of us’, a lot of people think that person is too different! You can be yourself, but only until a certain limit…

To what limit? I ask myself.

Is it okay to wear different shoes, but only when they’re of the same brand everyone else is wearing?

A color of the sun parlor is good, but a color of your own is wrong?

Is it fine to speak a different language, but only when your traditions are alike?

It’s no problem to have an own taste of music as long as you listen to the top 40 when you are in public!

Is it better for a child to be completely alone in this world, then be taken care of by two people who will do anything to give that child all the love they can give, but are of the same gender? Yes, I know I’ll be stepping on some toes here. But if I do, and you can’t stand the fact that I feel different about this then you do, I gladly point you to the ‘unfollow’ button! 🙂

When someone really is him or herself, the bullying begins. Groups are formed, because yes, we are stronger together! The name-calling starts, the abuses, and even the violence. Making someone’s life into a living hell without even thinking twice about it…

Are we trying to make someone into something we like to see? Is it a matter of jealousy or fear? Fear for a skin-color, a religion, a way of thinking or a special kind of look? Or just won’t blend in the crowd for a dozen other reasons? Don’t we want to be unique or special after all???

I will tell you how I see it!

Every human is unique and I like it that way! (won’t be much fun if everyone thinks and looked like you, now does it?) I love special people! As long their being theirselves not involves children abuse, robbing people, serial killing or beating up animals for fun, I’m pretty much down with everything else!

But then it begs the question:

Do you have the couragee to let someone be him or herself?

Are you strong enough, brave enough, compassionate enough to accept someone, even if their believes are not the same as yours?

Or are you more comfortable just following the herd?

Just think about it…

As always, LOVE to hear your opinion! But keep it gentle please. If you don’t like what I’m saying, you can of course say that! But if you just want to whine about it, please just click the ‘unfollow’ button and go on with your life! 🙂